Saturday, October 10, 2009
October 11: National Coming Out Day
It's not easy to come out.
It wasn't 33 years ago when I did it.
I can tell you, from conversations I've had with hundreds of young people, that while it's a bit easier today, it's still Very Hard Work.
These cards are a huge step forward in that process.
And it is a process. It starts with the person saying to himself, "I'm gay." Then, s/he says it to another person. Then, another.
Slowly. Over time. Testing the waters carefully. Until it doesn't matter any more.
It's like pulling the skin off an onion. The layers are very thin. It's often hard to tell one layer from another. There are lots of tears. But when you get to the core, it is firm and sweet.
Please do stay to the end of this video. The last card, and the artist's story, is amazing.
Coming out is not just about the LGBT person. It's also about heterosexual people who need to come out to Truth and Honesty and Love in their hearts.
That's often as difficult for them as it is for LGBT people.
The irony is that, in developing these 'coming out' cards, this artist has also Come Out. He has come out to Truth. He has come out to Honesty. He has come out to Love. In himself.
And, in the process, he's also helping other people - gay and straight - to come out, more and more, to Truth, Honesty and Love.
Happy National Coming Out Day!
May we all come out, more and more, to Truth. To Honesty. And so, to Love.