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Monday, December 13, 2010

Blue Christmas at The Beach

Can I just say how much I love the creative process?

For about two hours this afternoon, it was my absolute privilege to work with my rector, Max Wolf - a strong, pastoral, experienced leader - and the director of music, Alex Helsabeck - an amazingly talented, passionate musician - at All Saint's, Rehoboth Beach.

We were transforming some work I did in 2006 on a service of "Blue Christmas" for an affluent suburban congregation to one that would work for this ocean-side community and surrounding rural, farm areas.

I think we've got something that will really work for this place, at this time, for these people. How we got to this point is just a wonder of creativity and generosity of spirit and wisdom born of experience.

I just love being part of that process with other professionals. What an absolute delight and privilege!

Our service is scheduled for Tuesday, December 21 ("The Longest Night" or "The Winter Solstice") at 6 PM at All Saints' Episcopal Church, Rehoboth Beach.

Please feel free to adapt this liturgy to the needs of your own community, giving appropriate credit, of course (you'll note I did at the end).

I've lost count, but I think I've personally sent the 2006 version of this liturgy out to more than 50 clergy/laity around the country in the four years I've been doing this. God only knows how many have clipped this from my blog. I rejoice to think it's at least double that amount.

This is, without a doubt, the most important pastoral liturgy I do all year. I am delighted and honored to have the opportunity to do it again this year.

Of your kindness and mercy, keep this work of ministry in your prayers, that all who are "blue" this Christmas may know the "comfort and joy" promised in the miracle of The Incarnation.

A Blue Christmas Service
The Episcopal Church of All Saints, Rehoboth Beach
December 21, 2010, six o'clock in the evening


Musical prelude
Words of Welcome

Welcome to this Blue Christmas, a time when we can, with others, acknowledge the "blue" feelings we have at Christmas time, the reasons for them, and offer them to God. This time has been called the "long dark night of the soul" and "the winter of our discontent" in which memories of past experiences and the pain of present experiences can become overwhelming. For some, Christmas Day is the most difficult. For others, Christmas Eve, or New Years Eve, or the beginning of another lonely New Year. In this service, we'll have some singing appropriate to the Christmas Season, recognizing that this is not a season of joy for everyone. We will invite you to reflect on the pain, the loneliness, and the sadness you may feel and offer it to God for healing and transformation. We pray that you will find hope and comfort in knowing that you are not alone. Always remember that God knows your pain and loves you unconditionally.

Opening Prayer
All who are able, please stand

One: +For you, O God, our souls in silence wait.
All: Truly our hope is in you.
One: God of abundant mercy, you have given us grace to pray with one heart and one voice, even though our hearts are broken and our voices tremble with grief and sorrow. Comfort, comfort, Lord, your Holy people. Comfort those of us who sit in darkness, mourning 'neath our sorrow's load. Speak to us of the peace that awaits us, of the balm of healing for our weary and wounded souls. We ask all this, trusting in the promise you have made to hear the prayers of two or three who have gathered in the Name of your Holy Child, Jesus.
All: Amen.
Hymn # 482 Lord of All Hopefulness


All who are able, please be seated.

A reading from Hebrew Scripture: Selected verses from Isaiah 40
"Comfort, comfort my people" says your God. "Speak to the heart of Jerusalem and call to her that the time of service is ended ... Look up to the heavens! Who made the stars, if not the One who drills them like an army, calling each one by its own name? So mighty is God's power and strength that not one fails to answer. Israel, why then do you complain that our God does not know your troubles or care if you suffer injustice? Our God, the everlasting God, the creator of the farthest parts of the each, never grows tired or weary. No one can fathom the depths of God's understanding. God gives power to the faint and strength to the powerless. They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength."
Hymn# 67 Comfort, Comfort Ye My People

A Reading from the Psalms: Psalm 22
ONE: My God, my God, why have you forsaken me? Why are you so far from helping me, so far from the words of my groaning?

ALL: O my God, I cry by day, but you do not answer; and by night, but I find no rest.

ONE: In you, our ancestors trusted. They trusted and you delivered them.

ALL: It was you who took me from the womb, you who kept me safe upon my mother's breast; since my mother bore me, you have been my God.

ONE: Do not be far from me, for trouble is near and there is no one to help.

ALL: God does not despise the affliction of the afflicted; God does not hide from me. When I cry to God, God hears me. Thanks be to God!
A Gospel Reading: Matthew 11:28-29
"Come to me, all you who are weary and carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for you souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."
Solo by Alex Helsabeck “Sure in This Shining Night” – Samuel Barber

There follows a time for silent reflection. During this time, baskets with pencils and The Christmas Stars of Hope are distributed. You are invited to print the name(s) of those who have died or your particular petition of prayer These will be gathered and your prayers will be remembered by this congregation during the Christmas Season.


Reader: God who is with us, in this season of looking forward; of anticipating the celebration of your Son's birth and return in glory; we often find ourselves uncomfortable, uneasy, worried and sad. The lights and gaiety, the music, the bright joy around us, often make us more unquiet, more out of step, feeling even more disconnected and different.

All: Come, holy Child of Bethlehem

Reader: Some of these feelings come from false expectations. Others come from real situations and issues that face us or those we love. Some are from events we may influence and some are beyond our control. Trusting in your grace and provision, we name these situations and face the pain and dislocation they cause us. We claim your promise to companion us in bearing them. We claim your steadfast love for us, knowing you will help us find peace for our troubled spirits. We claim your wise and merciful power, that you will meet each need as is best for us. (Silent reflection follows)
All: Amazing grace! How sweet the sound, that saved a soul like me
I once was lost, but now am found, was blind but now I see.
Candle #1: Reader: God of Light and Life, we light this candle for all those who are struggling with issues involving physical or mental health. We especially remember those struggling with cancer, depression, or thoughts of suicide. May its light remind us all of the healing available to us in Christ Jesus. Hear our prayers that anguish be minimized and your good plan fulfilled for each who suffer. (Silent reflection follows)
All: ‘Twas grace that taught my heart to fear, and grace my fears relieved
How precious did that grace appear the hour I first believed.
Candle # 2: Reader: We light this candle for all those who are struggling with issues involving financial concerns, job loss and seemingly insurmountable debt, especially in this time of recession. We also remember the homeless in our community, especially the reportedly 125 high school students who are homeless. May its light remind us all that you are the Great Provider, you will give us our daily bread. Empower us to take the steps we need to solve these problems. Draw us to the right people and programs to help us. (Silent reflection follows)
All: Though many dangers toil, and snares, I have already come.
‘tis grace that brought me safe thus far, and grace will lead me home.
Candle #3: Reader: We light this candle for all those who grieve, especially those in our parish family, whom we now name (Time is given to say the names of our loved ones who have died – silently or aloud). You know our deepest need, you understand our pain- lost dreams, lost opportunities, the separation of death. May its light remind us that we are not orphaned, we are not alone. Grant us grace that in pain we may find comfort, in sorrow hope, and in death resurrection. (Silent reflection follows)
All: The Lord has promised good to me, his word my hope secures:
he will my shield and portion be, as long as life endures.
Candle #4: Reader: We light this candle for all those who wrestle with the chains of addiction. Help us to name that which enslaves us and face it: food, alcohol, drugs, pornography, shopping, escapism, self medication, and self abuse in all its forms. May this candle bring your light to those secret, and not so secret, activities of imprisonment. Hear our prayers for deliverance and freedom; help us and those we love break the hold of these evils. (Silent reflection follows)

Solo: Alex Helsabeck “Pieta Signore” Alessandro Stradella

Candle #5: Reader: We light this candle for all those who are victims of violence in any of its forms. May its light lead us to peace, safety, and truth. Pour forth encouragement to claim your help in healing physically and spiritually, to trust in your justice, to find assistance, to resist blaming ourselves, to be confident in the future you have planned for us, a future full of hope. (Silent reflection follows)
All: Yea, when this flesh and heart shall fail, and mortal life shall cease
I shall possess, within the veil, a life of joy and peace.

Candle #6: Reader: We light this candle for all those who are experiencing the pain of broken relationships with family, children, spouses, and friends. May its light remind us of the pure communion you desire for all your creation. Our desire for this same communion makes estrangement so painful. Lead us to relinquish the hold broken relationships have on us, to forgive ourselves for our contribution to the breach, to forgive those who have hurt us, to take the steps to mend that relationship, if possible. Lord, we know that sometimes we suffer from a broken relationship with someone who is now dead. Help us to prayerfully examine, receive and extend forgiveness in that situation, that we may live again. (Silent reflection follows)
All: When we’ve been there ten thousand years, bright shining as the sun
We’ve no less days to sing God’s praise than when we’d first begun
Candle #7 Reader: We light this candle for all those who are suffering the consequences of war, famine and unbridled disease. May its light remind us of your holy calling to every one who believes you are the light of the world. Change the hearts of all who resort to violence, who seek revenge. Protect those who find themselves far from home serving their nations or the needy. We know you are in the midst of those in anguish and pray that your healing presence will be seen, felt, and embraced. Reveal to us how to join in your saving work- to make tangible gifts to alleviate suffering, to support those on the front lines of natural and manmade disasters, to pray unceasingly for peace in our families, our neighborhoods, our world. (Silent reflection follows)
All: Praise God (x’s 7)
Praise God (x’s7)
Candle #8 Reader: We light this candle for all those who are estranged from you, who are besieged with doubts, who are overwhelmed by the world and do not claim your presence in their lives. We pray for them, and therefore ourselves, for we confess that each of us knows this condition. Lord, may the light of your love lead us all home to you. (Silent reflection follows)

We ask all these things in the strong name of Jesus.
All: Amen.

All who are able are welcome to now bring their “Stars of Hope” forward and place them at the altar. On your return, please gather around the candles, forming a circle and holding hands as together, we say

Our Father, who art in heaven . . . ...

Hymn #111: "Silent Night"

The Blessing:

My friends, life is short, and we do not have much time to gladden the hearts of those who make this earthly pilgrimage with us, so be swift to love, and make haste to do kindness, and the blessing of God, who comes to us as +Creative Presence, Saving Grace and Lifegiving Spirit be upon you and all whom you love and pray for this day, and forever more.
All: Amen.

Please return to your seats


One: Let us bless the Lord
All: Thanks be to God

Hymn: #56 O Come, O Come, Emmanuel

A light supper will be served in the Parish Hall, through the door in front of the altar, to your left. Please come and stay for the solace known to those who gather in the name and community of Christ Jesus. We are grateful to Ollie Wolfe for coordinating this meal.

We are also grateful for the ministry of tonight’s reader.

We are blessed by the ministry of Alex Helsabeck, Director of Music, and for the consistent, strong pastoral leadership of our rector, the Rev’d Max Wolf.

This service is a compilation of prayers and litanies from various sources arranged by the Rev'd Dr. Elizabeth Kaeton, who is deeply grateful for the work of the Rev'd Dr. June Maffin, Anglican priest from the Diocese of New Westminster, now residing in the Diocese of British Columbia, Canada, and Jeanine Locicero, an Episcopalian who works as Director of Worship Arts and Youth, Allendale United Methodist Church, Saint Petersburg, FL

Please feel free to take this bulletin with you and share or adapt this liturgy with others who may be comforted.


John Wilson said...

Hey Elizabeth, my name is John. I read a lot of blogs on religion and prayer and I've ended up here once or twice before. I'd love to hear your thoughts about this prayer exchange website I thought it was an interesting idea and would be curious to hear what you (or other christians) think about it

I'll check back here in the next day or two, thanks & God bless
John W.

kitty said...

Thank you for sharing this. It's a comfort just to read it.

Jim said...

I think the love and caring shine through the liturgy. That is what should happen and I thank you and your fellow creators.