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Sunday, January 25, 2009

The 'moveable middle' has moved (Or, "There's a whole lotta shakin' goin' on")

The Episcopal Diocese of Virginia, meeting in Diocesan Convention ("Annual Council") this past weekend, passed the following resolution:

R4: Blessedness of Covenanted Relationships

Resolved, that it is the mind of the 214th Annual Council of the Diocese of Virginia that “the diocesan model for sexual intimacy,” previously affirmed by the 209th and 199th Annual Councils of this Diocese, which held that “the normative context for sexual intimacy is lifelong, heterosexual, monogamous marriage,” has become limiting in its continuing application in this Diocese, and the changing context of today’s Church has made it increasingly important to respond to the pastoral needs of the Diocese’s faithful gay and lesbian members in an appropriate spirit of love, compassion, respect and justice; and, be it further

Resolved, that accordingly the 214th Annual Council of the Diocese of Virginia affirms and recognizes the inherent blessedness and holiness of all committed covenanted relationships between two adult persons, regardless of whether those relationships are between a man and a woman, a man and a man or a woman and a woman, when those relationships are (as described in Resolution D-39 of the 79th General Convention of the Episcopal Church) “characterized by fidelity, monogamy, mutual affection and respect, careful, honest communication, and the holy love which enables those in such relationships to see in each other the image of God.”

You can read all of the resolutions, including the full wording and sponsors of the resolution and other resolutions about liturgical rites of blessing and pastoral care for LGBT people here. (NOTE: See updated corrections in the comments section of this post.)

The Washington Times has a story about it here.

The 'orthodites', bless their hearts, are positively apoplectic. "Virginia Goes Over The Brink" is the breathless headline on one of the more notoriously vile blogs. They are ruminating and rumbling - when they aren't blaming +Gene Robinson, of course, or quoting extensively from 'The Lord of the Rings' - over whether or not this would have happened had some of their own not left for African Anglican Provinces. They are wringing their hands while asking questions like: Why Virgina? And: Why now?

A dear friend who is a young clergy person in that diocese sent me a note late last night, alerting me to the action of her diocese. She called it "a watershed moment in our diocese," which is probably known as one of the bastions of 'moderate' theological thought in The Episcopal Church.

I think what's happening in the Diocese of Virginia is reflective of what is happening in this country with this new Administration. Everything has shifted since last Tuesday.


Gitmo is closing. The United States will no longer engage in torture in the name of 'liberty and justice for all'. Reproductive Rights for women will be fiercely guarded. 'Abstinence Only" education will be taken off the curriculum.

DOMA (Defense of Marriage Act) will be taken off the table and "Don't Ask, Don't Tell," will no longer be policy for the military. And, while this administration does not overtly support "gay marriage" it is fully supportive of full civil rights for LGBT people.

To paraphrase the Queen of the Soundbite, Susan Russell, that ain't the whole enchilada, but there's more than enough guacamole in there for me. We are not where we want to be, but we sure are a heck of a lot farther down the road than we were before last Tuesday.

The center has shifted. The 'moveable middle' has moved. Everyone knows it. The Diocese of Virginia knows it. No one wants to look or sound like the homophobes who supported or funded Proposition 8. We've all heard Rick Warren. We don't ever want our understanding of what it means to be a Christian to be confused with his, no matter how "successful' he is.

Expect a whole lotta shakin' to go on in this country over the next four to eight years. Expect it to deeply affect the church, which is 'not of the world' but is still very much 'in the world.'

The playing field isn't exactly even, but it's a lot more level. We still have many miles to go before we sleep, because no one ever handed anyone social progress without a struggle. Nor should they. We need to work for our full civil rights the way women and people of color have before us.

The Diocese of Virginia has just sounded a bell weather. The baptismal water is rising. Time to get in our boats which have been stuck in the mud of prejudice and mired in bigotry, and set sail for the deep waters and cast our nets.

It's time to do the hard work of addressing the racism, sexism and yes, the flat-out misogyny in our own 'Rainbow Community'. It's time to tell the people who have dwelled in the darkness of the despair which brings about promiscuity and addiction that there is the Light of civil rights of marriage for those whose relationships are “characterized by fidelity, monogamy, mutual affection and respect, careful, honest communication, and the holy love which enables those in such relationships to see in each other the image of God.”

And no, my 'orthodite' friends who hold the view that homosexuality is like an addiction to alcohol or drugs, this is not something that can be 'cured'. Even my sainted father, who once encouraged me to give up my love for Ms. Conroy as he had given up cigarettes, before he died 11 years ago next month, shrugged his shoulders and allowed as how, in the face of a then 23 years of a committed relationship, "Well, I guess it's true that love is blind."

Pray, sisters and brothers, for that 'spiritual blindness' to spread throughout the land - including and especially the church.

It's time to wipe our noses, dry our tears, pick up our socks, roll up our sleeves and get to work. Repeat after me:

Yes We Can!



P.S. Before you leave on this noble mission, do remember to keep the porch light on for those who return. They will be back.

Of this, I have no doubt.


Anonymous said...

Yes, we can. Our diocesan convention (CT) voted to move beyond the canons - to "two adult person" language - last October.

Elizabeth Kaeton said...

Yes, I know, Scott. And, I continue to rejoice. Inch by bloody inch, we'll get there.

Joie said...

Thanks for this post, Elizabeth. Just a note, it's not the Washington Post but was the Times, instead. Still, the Times gave a pretty accurate report which is not something I have always seen from them re: TEC. Maybe that's another thing to celebrate. I was also glad to see my friend and just ordained priest, Matt Johnson, quoted.

JCF said...


[But a correction, Lizbet: that link you posted, was to the Washington Times, not the Post. I really don't trust the coverage of the loony Moonies. ;-/]

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Frair John said...

Will wonders never cease.
No doubt we'll have a resolution at Dio. Con. this year in MD.
Should be an endlessly fun debate.

it's margaret said...

Elizabeth --you have published the wording of the Resolution as we first submitted it (and yes, my parish is one of the endorsing congregations). But the Resolution which passed was worded differently, and we fought like hell to get the word "blessedness" back in. The vote was 211 for blessedness, 206 against. But then the Resolution passed overwhelmingly....

Here is the text of the Resolutions which passed:
Integrity of Committed Relationships
Resolved, that the Diocese of Virginia recognizes our responsibility to repsond to the pastoral needs of our faithful gay and lesbian members in a spirit of love, compassion and respect and in so doing seek to fulfill our baptismal commitment to respect the dignity of every human being, and be it further
Resolved, that accordingly the 214th AnnualCouncil of the Diocese of Va affirms the inherent integrity and BLESSEDNESS of committed Christian relationships between two adult persons, when those relationships are characterized by fidelity and then it reads the same as posted below.

Wormwood's Doxy said...

NC did it last year. VA this year. The tide has turned. Thanks be to God!


Bill said...

Oh darn, you mean it’s no longer going to be cachet to be gay.

Göran Koch-Swahne said...

I think you're spot on, dear Elizabeth! and we are beginning to feel it over here, and will, even more, in days to come ;=)

Elizabeth Kaeton said...

Thanks, Margaret. I've corrected the Washington Post to the Washington Times. And, I've sent people to the comments section to see the updated version of the resolution (I did get it off the VA webpage). It's not where we want to be, but we're headed in the right direction. Thank you, Margaret and Joie and all the rest who fought so hard for these changes.

Elizabeth Kaeton said...

Bill - I know, right? We'll just have to adjust. Somehow. ;~)

MadPriest said...

Can you email me as soon as possible so I can email you back.